You must realize that marriage is not 50 / 50.  If you think that you just meet in the middle and he wins or she wins bitterness and keeping score will set in.  Marriage is 100 / 100.  You must be willing to go all the way to their side not just meet in the middle.  The best marriages understand that having the the heart of a servant is a key to happiness.

Philippians 2:4 MSG – Don’t be obsessed with getting your own advantage. Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand.